Sue's posts with tag: wedding marriage
 In about exactly one and a half days' time, I will be married. People keep asking how I feel, whether I am excited or not. Frankly, not really. Mark and I have been tired and busy with so many things to wrap up, it seems. Right now I think my poor dear is still working out the logistics list at home, while I am preparing some of the things we need to bring.I am 10% excited, 10% happy, 50% tired, 10% nervous and 20% sad. About there. Sad because I will have to leave my family, but right now trying not to think about that. Besides, I think I have been crying enough the past few months and weeks over the issue that now I feel it is time to stop crying and be brave. The little girl in Yinny Finny (my family's nickname for me) has to grow up, as all girls do. Besides, as Feng says, I am hardly leaving them. After all, our new flat is only 10 minutes' drive away and a half hour walk down the canal. The happiness comes in short waves, especially having ALL my family members reunited here for the wedding. I feel much loved, especially since I have never been the one to demand to be in the limelight. It feels rather strange. I am 10% nervous about tripping and falling down the aisle in my 2 1/2 inch shoes and long, heavy train.Am I happy? It's really not so much about happiness, I feel. Yes, I think it is exciting, all this wedding flurry and I must admit I love the pretty dresses I will be wearing :). What I can say, though, is that I have been 100% peaceful and calm. It seems to be a quiet determination I have acquired, when I look across the room at Mark, that this is indeed the man I have found to spend a lifetime with and He is the very one God has intended for me. Of this we have been sure. And thus the peace that comes, through it all, the happy, sad, exciting, nervous, tired times. The blues, pinks, purples and maybe even greens.And so when I say the vows I have been memorising, and I hope I don't forget! I will say them with a quiet and joyful acceptance that this is the path I have chosen to take, it is a solemn and serious commitment to last us a lifetime, and it is God's will so that we will learn to love one another with a love that can only come from the true Lover of our souls, and that in doing so our lives will reflect His glory and the love He has for all. May our wedding truly testify of His love.
 We've gone global! Yup welcome to mark-n-sue.com... courtesy of our dear brother Galvin who has really gone out of his way to make a beautiful website for our friends and family to enjoy.
Check it out for yourselves... some of our wedding photos are there, for your preview... will show all of them only on the wedding day itself :) those who are invited can also RSVP via the website.
(If you're interested in asking Galvin to do your website, he's going to market his packages soon - email galvin.sng@gmail.com for more details :))
 Well it seems some time since I've written - part of the reason is I've had no time to sit down, another part of the reason is that I really have been unable to sit down upright in a chair for the past week. Got an inexplicable pain in my lower back which began over the weekend and continued to worsen, till when I attempted to step out of the gate on Monday to go to work, my shaky legs would not carry me out the door. So I hobbled back into the house, and there I have been since... except for a "drama" visit that night to Alexandra A&E with Mark and my mum, where an x-ray could not detect what was wrong, but I will be going to a specialist tomorrow.
The doctor gave me a week of MC, and I ended up at home - very unexpectedly, and with the most unpredictable way of spending the week of my birthday, unable to stand or even sit upright without waves of pain shooting down my spine. Well, with each passing day it has gotten slowly better...till today I can finally sit up awhile to check my email and type this blog.
I have learnt very much these past two weeks that He is a God who gives and takes away. Blessed be His name! I have always thought that this was a scary verse, but then the one who said it was a godly man who had gone through many scary things - Job.
God has been so good to Mark and myself. The day we got our flat, my dearest little doggie Lady died. We had to put her to sleep as she had been suffering from fits for two days and I knew it was time for her to go. Nevertheless, I was very sad. She had been with us for the past 13 years. It still seems strange when I look out into the porch half expecting her to be there resting in the shade, but she isn't. And just a few hours before we took her to the vet to put her to sleep, we paid the first option for the flat.
It was truly a day of deep sorrow and great joy, all at the same time. And as I shared with my best friend FS, indeed it was a day of something ending and a new life beginning. We are very excited about our new flat. Can hardly believe it's ours - it really is everything I would have wanted. Overlooking the canal, not too high up a floor (I'm afraid of heights), lovely airy bedrooms and renovation mostly all done...
There have been many endings and beginnings in my life recently, and many more to come with our marriage soon. And God has been so good to provide me with many good things in the new beginnings. I think He knows I'm not very good at adapting to change. There's been so much good in the old, and because He is faithful, there will be so much good in the new. At the same time, I always ask myself - if God were to take any of these good things away, how would I respond? I am glad that for now I am still able to answer, His will be done... a very scary thought, but we are learning to approach the gifts our Heavenly Father gives us with open palms and open hearts. Blessed be Your Name, O Lord.
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 Mark and I have been very amused at the great response to his blog on the wedding :) guess not many husband-to-bes blog about their wedding experience, and I must say I am extremely proud of him... he's done a good job not just "tolerating" all the prep, but much more than that we've been really enjoying it each step of the way! Despite the rushing around and the constant thinking and talking through of the preparation process, we have really benefitted from it in terms of knowing each other more and doing things together :)
The funniest thing so far is the way we have both been making purchases for the wedding... or should I say, rather, how HE has been making purchases for the wedding! Take our bed linen example. I was talking on the phone to my best friend while we were in BHG (Seiyu) walking around the linen section. I saw a pattern I liked and pointed at it, just to tell him I thought it was a nice pattern... and before I knew it, Mark was lining up at the cashier buying it! He thought my gesture had meant that he should buy it. I thought I was just telling him we should look at it. So that's how we ended up with our bedsheets. Which I do like, by the way :). But the most amusing thing is that it happened again today! We just wandered into a furniture shop in IMM and ended up looking at a lovely set and a dining table set as well. While the salesman was drawing out the proposed plan for how the furniture would fit into the house, I decided to go to the restroom. When I returned, Mark had already paid the deposit for both sets! He thought that I had told him we should get it but I somehow don't remember saying that at all :). But once again, I do like it and I'm fine with the purchase. People whom we have been telling this to have been very amused. I don't know what else we'll end up buying in my absence :) maybe a jacuzzi tub? A whole new kitchen? Who knows... and someone even remarked to us today that it's good I'm amused by this and not upset instead... but to me, I am grateful as once again it reflects our different styles of decision making.. I am the kind who likes to explore every single alternative before making decisions, and he is the kind who will make them much more easily on the spot. I am grateful because if we did things my way all the time, we'd still get things done - but much more slowly! We're grateful because many things for the wedding are falling into place. Most important to us was the theme for the wedding as well as the key verse, and we believe God has been speaking to us about this as well... will be revealed eventually, once we have sought Him that this is what He really wants us to focus on in the ceremony and also in our marriage, a lifelong commitment to an unchanging God.
Mark and I have been feeling so blessed even as we prepare for our wedding. We're so grateful for all He has been doing in the process from our time of engagement till now... Just came back from signing the bridal studio package tonight, so now he has no choice but to marry me or forfeit the deposit, haha ;-)
Grateful for all He has been teaching us in our relationship, learning to love one another above ourselves, and love God most of all. And for the many friends He has surrounded our lives with, so many people offering to help in so many ways, just a phone call away. We look forward to our youths ushering and dancing at our wedding, our cousins playing in the worship band :)
We are overwhelmed by His faithfulness and goodness to us... also knowing at the same time that we do not take any of this for granted, as we know many couples go thru a difficult process even getting married...
I thank God for His material blessings. The engagement Bible my friend April got me when I didn't have one, the beautiful wedding planner my tuition girl's mother got me that I didn't even want to open for a week as the wrapping was so nice :)... the unbelievably good price I got my wedding dress at, my aunty's kind offer of her timeshare week for our honeymoon... The smooth booking of our wedding venue coming along, and the list goes on.
Our most recent surprise - winning a $1k photo package from Chris Ling Photographers, after I sent in a coupon in a Her World Brides magazine! That was the highlight of our week :)
But more than material blessings, we desire God's presence in our relationship and are grateful for the community of people we are blessed with in the Church.. the Christian support and role of community in a marriage is crucial. Like Moses, we know that He has to go with us, if not we do not dare move ahead.. we ask His continued presence and Lordship over our lives. Thank You, Lord, for everything.. now back to my Amos assignment ;-)...
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